We live in a world filled with large amounts of negativity and lots of negative people. People that lack compassion for others, people that like to rain on your parade, people that like to constantly one up you. Sometimes it makes it difficult to be a positive person in this negative world. Let me share a few examples with you.
You are lucky my store exists to sell you my wares
Today I had an experience where I tried to purchase an item for its marked price, only to find out that it was mismarked. I got the feeling from the salesperson that I should be lucky they had this item at all. He told me the price in the computer was the price I’d have to pay. He did offer to price match some other stores, but the whole vibe I got was that they were doing me a real favor by simply existing. I’m sure I could have spoken to the manager and maybe gotten this item for the mismarked price, but it really wasn’t worth my time to do so.
Wham bam thank you m’am, next patient
I’ve also had some experiences with doctors recently, where they simply want to treat the symptoms and then move on. They won’t take any more of their highly valuable time to actually find the cause of the ailment. It seems really hard to find a doctor that will actually spend even a few extra minutes to talk to their patients.
Everything about me is better than you
Less recently I’ve had friends that always try to one-up me on anything I’m talking about. (Actually there is one guy at work like this right now, but I don’t see him too often.) One-upmanship has no business in a friendship. I might like to talk to my friends about a new gizmo for my Jeep or a new doo-dad for my house. If I do, I’m proud of said item, and want to share my experiences. I do not want to hear how much better yours is, or all the reasons my stuff sucks. These friends are poisonous to my happy self, and I have gradually disassociated myself from friends like this. (To any of my disassociated friends that happen to be reading this, I’m probably not talking about you, but if I am, we can still be friends if you can keep it positive.)
I am not a pawn in this world, I have control over me
I have the power to choose the people I spend time with, the businesses I frequent, and the doctors I see. That choice is up to me, and I’m choosing positive, happy, helpful people to be around.
I don’t shop at stores that don’t value me as a customer. If you don’t want me as a customer I’ll go to someone who does. I don’t have time to argue with sales people or haggle with managers. I’ll take my money and spend with a store where my business is appreciated.
I go elsewhere for medical assistance. I’ll bounce around to a few different doctors until I find one that will discuss my symptoms AND the underlying cause. One that cares how I’m feeling. Actually I did this with my eye doctor. He sold his practice and after a couple visits with the new eye doctor and the horrible service that accompanied those visits, I tracked down my original doctor to find out where he moved to. He moved across town and I am absolutely willing to drive across town to see him. He takes time to talk to me, asks me how things are going, takes the time to make sure my contacts fit right, and tries as many times as necessary to make sure I get a good fit and am happy with my vision. Not only does he take the time to perform all the services that a good eye doctor should, he also talks to me on a personal level, like a real human being. He asks about my life, and he shares some of his. That is service worth driving across town for. Heck I’d even drive to another town for that kind of service.
With friends, I have realized that friends will come and go. There is no need to hang onto friends for our entire lives. We can choose the people we associate with, and I choose to be around positive, happy people that will listen to my stories and be genuinely happy for me. And people that I can do the same for in return.
Keep what works and discard the rest
I guess you could say I keep what works and get rid of what doesn’t. I discard the negativity and readily accept the positive. I also use the law of attraction. I act in a way that is positive, helpful, and kind. I don’t specifically do this to attract those people. I do it as I believe it’s the best way for me to live my life, it just so happens that by the law of attraction, my positivity attracts positive people.
Sometimes I feel like I’m just surrounded by negativity and negative people. Times like this mean spending time by myself or just with my family. That’s ok though, I’d rather be by myself than spend time around energy draining negativity. Spending time by myself or just with my family is actually a great way to charge my positivity batteries.
That’s what works for me. I’d love to hear what works for you. How do you deal with the negativity in your world? How do you keep your life positive?
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